“Solitude is independence. It had been my wish and withnthe years I had attained it. It was cold. Oh, cold enough! nBut it was also still, wonderfully still and vast like the cold stillness of space in which the stars revolve.” - Herman Hesse #quote #loner #solitude
We just reached 1000 likes on this page. Just wanted to tell each and everyone of you how glad I am that people relate and enjoy the work that has been done with this page. nnJust wanted to write some words and if you feel like reading, please do.nnThis project "Loner Quotes" it all started about a year ago, I just felt that I wanted to contribute/do something. Even if it was putting some quotes on a picture in Photoshop. Still it gave me a sense of accomplishment. The accomplishment intensified even more when I saw all of you liking, sharing, relating so much to what I posted. It made me feel not so lonely, knowing that I am not the only one that feels that way. nnLots of times I felt and keep feeling that I just don't fit in the society that I partake in. It's so hard to find people you can connect with. People that you feel like spending time with. That's the truth, you might not find people that will understand you nor will they care. But the search should not end at that, because there are. Even if you don't feel deserving of love, being close to someone else, is that really so? Or is that the story you made yourself believe in? I often feel that way, I feel I am undeserving, can't be loved nor will ever love. And so I just close myself, I trace those borders around me and close my heart in a box. It just makes things worse. Life is not supposed to be like that, at least I don't think it has to.nnAt times you just question what we are being fed, the authority and the rules that are set. With all the social media, ads, what is and not beautiful in the eyes of those that work with your desires and play with your imagination. What authority do they have to tell you how to feel or what you need? But we are constantly exposed to it and it is inevitable to get lost/disconnected with ourselves. nnIt makes you wonder what is your purpose at all, if you don't fit those standards. In some instances the reason you choose being lonely is because of the fear to not hurt or be hurt/vulnerable again, because the pain is just too much to stand. And I realize that change is inevitable, and we still need people in our lives. Going on your own in this life at least is not an easy task. I think we all understand that. Some choose that lifestyle and are OK with it, others are in it because of their own personal problems they face. nnA lot that makes you go and close yourself and shut the doors has to do with the past experiences. All these past experiences I had, changed me tremendously. Although I often hear that what has past is in the past. At the same time the past, the choices have molded me into who I am in the present. So you can't just ignore it. Often I avoided choosing, because I felt that choice is too much responsibility to handle. As the quote says: "As long as you don't choose, everything remains possible." Truth is, not choosing is also a choice. Not the best one you can make. Life is all about choices, and at one moment it is about you making those choices, or others making it for you. The latter I understood from personal experience made me feel more worthless and anxious. nnMoreover we can't deny that solitude is an intrinsic part of living, just as socializing is. It is hard to find the balance between the two extremes. Especially in this world that is SO, SO busy and full of anxiety, consumerism, all this buzz and fuss going on.nnHave you thought why some people when you tell them that you spend your weekends at home by yourself, in the confinement of your room, reading, watching a movie, listening to music, dancing by yourself, and having fun doing all of that are so amazed? Because they can't imagine being with themselves. Lots of people nowadays are escaping in the noise, clubbing, hanging out with people they don't even like, because they fear of being with themselves. Listening to their thoughts, facing their inner demons. So they suppress that, they ignore themselves, they drown in the noise, thinking that's the answer. Solitude in the 21st century is becoming so rare unfortunately. But solitude can be so rewarding, if you just invite it and accept it. nnIn the end. The end goal I suppose is to find that happiness we all search for. Be it in solitude or with others, do what makes you feel alive and happy. It is so not easy, but one step at a time we all can do it. Feeling lost, hopeless, lonely is not bad. The media wants you to feel bad about being that way. Whatever it is you feel, accept it, because It is what makes you human, accept those emotions, accept yourself. And as for what others think you are "supposed" to do, screw them, listen to yourself and follow your heart.nnThank you!
“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” ― Henry David Thoreau
“It is in your power to withdraw yourself whenever you desire. Perfect tranquility within consists in the good ordering of the mind, the realm of your own.” - Marcus Aurelius
"We need solitude, because when we're alone, we're free from obligations, we don't need to put on a show, and we can hear our own thoughts." - Tamim Ansary"
“Solitude was my only consolation - deep, dark, deathlike solitude.” n― Mary Shelley
“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.” n― Wayne W. Dyer
“Never forget that solitude is my lot ... I implore those who love me to love my solitude." - Rainer Maria Rilke
“Reading is that fruitful miracle of a communication in the midst of solitude.” ― Marcel Proust